We’ve all heard that anger is a normal part of being human. But, how do we know when anger is no longer normal, and is actually a problem? Listed below are 7 ways to know if the way you deal with anger is becoming an issue.
This list, is by no means, set in stone; but it should at least give you an idea of where you are – as far as handling anger is concerned.
1. Getting Angry Often
Everyone experiences anger from time to time, but getting angry more times than you can count, can be a symptom of an anger problem.
2. Holding on to Anger for Long Periods of Time
Being angry for a small amount of time can be ok – but staying angry for long periods of time, can introduce health problems, or escalate into bigger issues.
There is no set amount of time to be angry, but it’s safe to say that being angry for most of your life, or for years and years can turn into something ugly.
3. Getting Angry About ‘Anything’ or For No Reason
We all have our so-called hot buttons. There’s going to be something that can get us angry. Some of us, on the other hand, tend to fly off the handle over any little thing, on a frequent basis. Does that describe you?
4. Allowing Anger to Control You
Does everything you do, say, or feel revolve around anger? Going out of your way to avoid getting angry, or constantly being on the lookout for things that can make you angry, gives control to anger – while, at the same time, letting it run your life.
5. Using Anger to Control Others
It should go without saying, that using anger and fear tactics to control someone else is not only hurting you, but those around you. If people are walking on eggshells around you, this could be one of the symptoms of anger problems.
6. Having Intense Anger
If you frequently find yourself getting so angry that your vision starts getting blurred, you get light-headed, or your arms/hands start shaking uncontrollably, there’s a strong possibility that you have a problem with anger (or some other health issue).
7. Aggressive Anger
Of course this is not a good sign. This is probably one of the most obvious, yet serious symptoms of anger problems, that are listed here. If you consistently express your anger by getting aggressive – physically or verbally – then seek the help of an anger management professional.
Do you think you have an anger problem, now that you’ve gone through this list?
You probably already know the answer to that question.
So, what are you going to do about it now?
Realistically, you have a couple of choices here.
A) You can either keep doing what you’ve been doing and keep getting the same results… in other words, keep responding to anger without thinking and continue making yourself and those around you miserable.
B) You can CHOOSE to find better ways to respond to anger. Ways that will leave you feeling better about yourself and respected by others.
The thing is, you DO have a choice… whether it seems like it or not.
Although, Angry Benson (see video below) does a poor job of doing so, you can choose to not let anger control you.