Dealing with anger doesn’t have to be hard if you know what to watch for. This article will cover 3 big mistakes people with anger problems make. After reading this, you’ll know what mistakes to avoid, and be in a better position to deal with anger effectively.
Mistake #1 – React without thinking
Reacting on impulse is not always a good thing… especially when you’re angry. It usually results in you saying, or even doing, something you later regret. In some cases it can even lead to violence. A better option would be to pause and give some thought to what to say or do the next time you’re angry.
Mistake #2 – Stick around too long
When a person sticks around instead of walking away, they’re inviting more problems than it’s worth. For example let’s say you’re angry because another person disagrees with you, and an argument begins. Happens all the time, right?
Well, the person with anger problems’ way of dealing with anger is continuing to try and prove their point. Which only makes them angrier because the other person still disagrees – this usually results in escalating problems… such as shouting, pushing, or worse. Instead, this would be a perfect opportunity to walk away from the situation, and clear your thoughts.
Mistake #3 – Dwell on things
People with anger problems can have the tendency to dwell on the things that made them angry, for extended lengths of time. Thinking about old events that initiated anger, only invites more anger.
In essence, just the ‘thought’ of being angry can get you angry again. So, instead of dwelling on how someone hurt you, or why something happened, one thing you can do is start focusing on how you feel ‘right now’. Then think about things that make you feel better… and move on.
So, now you know that dealing with anger by reacting without thinking, not walking away, and dwelling on things are mistakes that people with anger problems make. Now avoid those mistakes the next time you’re angry, so things don’t get out of hand.