How to Get Your Angry Teen To Open Up To You

Do you have a teenage son or daughter that is very angry and you can’t seem to get through to them? If so, then it’s probably natural for you feel that your only option is to ship them off someplace.

But before making that decision, in this video, Josh Shipp of HeyJosh.com suggests you consider an alternative anger management technique if you’re the parent of an angry teen.

As a former angry teen himself, Josh points out that communication is the key to helping a teenager with anger issues. He explains that “what you don’t talk out, you act out.”

Josh says:

If you have problems inside of you and you don’t talk those out, you’re going to explode in anger.

So, how do you get your teen to open up to you when they’re angry?

Show them that you can relate to them. Josh explains:

Well, talk about some things that frustrated you. And talk about some things that were hard for you, and some of your mistakes. Some of the things that you’re not always so great at…

Cause I find that when you’re vulnerable with a teenager, when you sort of cough up a mistake, you cough up vulnerability, a weakness, then they in turn will feel more comfortable sharing that with you.

3 Ways to Deal With Angry People

The premise of this article is to cover, simple strategies for dealing with anger issues. In this case, how to deal with someone who has issues with anger.

We’ve all encountered them. Some of us more than others, but we’ve all had our dealings with them at one time or another. This person is your friend, father, mother, co-worker, someone you’re dating, your husband, wife, or even your kids. What do these people have in common? They could be someone you know who has problems with anger.

So, the question is, “What are some ways to deal with someone who has anger issues?”

Here are a few suggestions that may lead you in the right direction.

1. Address Issues From a Calm Perspective

Think about it a second – if you were angry, how would you react if someone you’re angry at, or arguing with, was shouting or responding to you in an angry way? Would that calm you down? Of course not, you’d probably get frustrated which would intensify your anger, and could lead you to say, or do, something you later regret.

One of the first things to keep in mind when dealing with an angry person is to relax and speak to them calmly. That way there’s a better chance they will calm down too, and respond without being so angry. Or at the very least, not feel like they’re being attacked.

With that said, here’s something else you may want to consider…

2. Realize They Make Their Own Choices

Odds are, you probably don’t like to be told what to do, or how to feel. Likewise, the person that’s angry doesn’t want to be told what to do either. In fact, telling an angry person to chill out, or calm down, sometimes gets the opposite result… it makes them angrier.

They might feel like you’re trying to boss them around, which may be the reason they’re angry in the first place. So, recognize they have a right to feel the way they do, and how they choose to react, whether you agree with them or not. But also, remember you have a choice on whether you want to stick around while they’re angry. Which brings us to the next strategy for dealing with someone with anger issues.

3. Leave The Room

Just because someone else has anger issues and doesn’t know how to control their reaction to anger, doesn’t mean you have to stick around to deal with it. If it’s safe, and appropriate for you to do so, leave the room until they calm down. This way you don’t give yourself a chance to get angry too. Then you both have time to clear your heads and can talk things out in a cool manner.

Although there are no guarantees that these anger management strategies will work for you and your specific situation, this should have given you a better idea of how to approach the issue of dealing with someone with anger problems, in a way that’s healthier for you and the other person.

Want to know what type of anger the person you think has an anger problem has? Check out the 12 types of anger, and see if any of them sound familiar, to you.

How To Deal With Anger In A Marriage

Anger can negatively affect many areas of our life when it isn’t handled properly. This can be a big problem in relationships. Especially, when you are a husband, wife or partner whose constantly angry.

Find out how to deal with anger in a marriage, and what can be done to handle anger in a healthy way.

This tip on dealing with anger when married is courtesy of MarriageToday.

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