Do You Have Any of These Symptoms of Anger Problems?

Anger is something that we all deal with from time to time. Unfortunately, some of us have a harder time managing anger, and don’t even know it. So, how do you know if you’re in that category? Here are 4 symptoms of anger problems you can use to identify whether you might have an anger issue.

Do these symptoms describe you or someone you know?

1. You Get Angry Often

If you get angry frequently, there’s a good chance you may have some issues related to anger that need to be dealt with. When this happens one of the best things to do is give yourself time away from the things that are making you angry.

2. You’re Always Defensive

Are you always getting defensive about something? Things like your work, your looks, your weight, how you talk, or anything else? Getting defensive and angry over things that make you defensive, is a sign you should evaluate things before reading too much into them. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself getting angry over things that probably were taken out of context.

3. Any Little Thing Gets You Mad

Do the smallest things set you off? You know things like: getting stuck in traffic, your morning coffee is cold, or you get ketchup on your new shirt. There are worse things in life than spilling something on your shirt… although it can be annoying, it really doesn’t justify the amount of anger, or attention, that it gets.

4. You Get Aggressive

Becoming aggressive when you’re angry is one of the worst things you can do. It can be a marker of just how “out of control” your anger is. If you get aggressive when you get angry, even for small things, then you’re endangering not only yourself, but those around you.

Recognizing any of these symptoms is the first step in taking charge of your anger, before it starts affecting your life and relationships.

Seriously… do you really want to be like angry Benson, in this video?

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How to Deal With an Angry Spouse That Yells At You

If you need to know how to deal with an angry spouse, then this short video may give you some ideas. Specifically, it covers a few techniques you can use when you find yourself in the uncomfortable position of having a spouse that yells at you.

How to Deal With an Angry Spouse (that yells)

Knowing how to deal with an angry spouse effectively means keeping some key things in mind when faced with this issue. Listed below are the main ideas that were addressed in this video.

5 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH AN ANGRY WIFE OR HUSBAND

1. Don’t defend yourself – proving you’re right just makes the other person even angrier. If you are right, there’s plenty of time to discuss it when everyone has calmed down.

2. Remain calm and reasonable – there’s no sense in both of you being angry. Plus, your calm energy will essentially calm your spouse down.

3. It’s a good idea to take a timeout if you’re afraid for your safety.

4. Listen for the presence of pain underneath your spouse’s anger – usually where there’s anger, there’s pain. So it’s important to really listen to your partner and let them know that you’re hearing them.

5. As you’re listening to them, calmly and sincerely ask them, “what can I do…?” When sincerely asked, this let’s your spouse know you’re hearing them and can lead to them calming down.

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How To Deal With An Angry Wife or Spouse

Dealing with an angry wife or spouse can be challenging if you’re not prepared in advance with how to respond. If you choose the wrong way to react, you could make matters worse.

See also: How to Deal With an Angry Spouse That Yells At You

So, if you’re dealing with an angry spouse, coworkers, friends, or employees, here are a few suggestions you can use so you’ll know…

What to Do (and Not to Do) When Someone Else is Angry.

Because anger is associated with aggression and violence, and because relatively few of us grew up with a healthy model of how to handle angry feelings, anger is scary for most Americans. It’s probably why so many people avoid conflict at any cost; Heaven forbid someone should get angry!

Yet anger is a human emotion like any other, and it belongs to the spectrum of emotions that may be experienced from day to day. So chances are that someone you know will get angry around you at least sometimes.

Here are some tips to help you understand and deal with their anger:

DO: Listen to an angry person’s account of why they are angry, even if you don’t agree about the facts. When someone is exhibiting anger, it’s not the best time to try to have a rational debate. Just concentrate on hearing them out.

Try to see the situation from their point of view, and let them know you understand. Feeling misunderstood and disagreed with at the same time will keep their anger in place. If you let them know that you can see where they’re coming from, you will go a long way toward helping them over their anger.

Remove yourself from the situation if you see the person is getting out of control. Your personal safety is more important than being polite. When in doubt, clear out!

There are also some DON’TS when dealing with someone who’s angry:

Don’t tell the person to calm down. Have you ever seen that work? It just makes them angrier, because it’s clear you’re not listening.

Don’t allow their anger to ignite yours. An angry person may say things that rile you in an effort to get you as angry as they are. Focus on understanding their feelings, not on what they say about you.

Don’t try to shame or ridicule them. It will only fan the flames of their anger (and justifiably so!).

Don’t attempt to engage them in a debate. They’re not in the mood and you’ll waste your time. Save the accuracy and the facts for a cool-headed discussion.

Do NOT take on an unnaturally soothing, calm tone. This does nothing to soothe or calm an angry person. It simply makes them more aware that you don’t understand them and are trying to manipulate them.

Anger doesn’t have to be scary, but trust your instincts and get away if you believe the angry person may get out of control. Remember, when in doubt, clear out!

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Is anger hurting your relationship? Here’s a book that might help:

When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight

Here’s what readers are saying:

…Everyone in a relationship needs to read it. May help cut down on divorces. – Agent469

…I have read many books on anger and for couples who have distorted anger, this one is the winner… – A. Bussierre

Click here to read the rest of the reviews on Amazon…

When Anger Hurts Your Relationship Book