3 Ways to Deal With Angry People

The premise of this article is to cover, simple strategies for dealing with anger issues. In this case, how to deal with someone who has issues with anger.

We’ve all encountered them. Some of us more than others, but we’ve all had our dealings with them at one time or another. This person is your friend, father, mother, co-worker, someone you’re dating, your husband, wife, or even your kids. What do these people have in common? They could be someone you know who has problems with anger.

So, the question is, “What are some ways to deal with someone who has anger issues?”

Here are a few suggestions that may lead you in the right direction.

1. Address Issues From a Calm Perspective

Think about it a second – if you were angry, how would you react if someone you’re angry at, or arguing with, was shouting or responding to you in an angry way? Would that calm you down? Of course not, you’d probably get frustrated which would intensify your anger, and could lead you to say, or do, something you later regret.

One of the first things to keep in mind when dealing with an angry person is to relax and speak to them calmly. That way there’s a better chance they will calm down too, and respond without being so angry. Or at the very least, not feel like they’re being attacked.

With that said, here’s something else you may want to consider…

2. Realize They Make Their Own Choices

Odds are, you probably don’t like to be told what to do, or how to feel. Likewise, the person that’s angry doesn’t want to be told what to do either. In fact, telling an angry person to chill out, or calm down, sometimes gets the opposite result… it makes them angrier.

They might feel like you’re trying to boss them around, which may be the reason they’re angry in the first place. So, recognize they have a right to feel the way they do, and how they choose to react, whether you agree with them or not. But also, remember you have a choice on whether you want to stick around while they’re angry. Which brings us to the next strategy for dealing with someone with anger issues.

3. Leave The Room

Just because someone else has anger issues and doesn’t know how to control their reaction to anger, doesn’t mean you have to stick around to deal with it. If it’s safe, and appropriate for you to do so, leave the room until they calm down. This way you don’t give yourself a chance to get angry too. Then you both have time to clear your heads and can talk things out in a cool manner.

Although there are no guarantees that these anger management strategies will work for you and your specific situation, this should have given you a better idea of how to approach the issue of dealing with someone with anger problems, in a way that’s healthier for you and the other person.

Want to know what type of anger the person you think has an anger problem has? Check out the 12 types of anger, and see if any of them sound familiar, to you.

How To Deal With Anger In A Marriage

Anger can negatively affect many areas of our life when it isn’t handled properly. This can be a big problem in relationships. Especially, when you are a husband, wife or partner whose constantly angry.

Find out how to deal with anger in a marriage, and what can be done to handle anger in a healthy way.

This tip on dealing with anger when married is courtesy of MarriageToday.

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When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight

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Do You Have Any of These 4 Anger Symptoms?

Anger is something that we all deal with from time to time. Unfortunately, some of us have a harder time managing anger, and don’t even know it. So, how do you know if you’re in that category? Use these 4 symptoms of anger problems to see if you might have an anger issue.

Do any of these signs describe you or someone you know?

1. You Get Angry Often

If you get angry frequently, there’s a good chance you may have some issues related to anger that need to be dealt with. When this happens one of the best things to do is give yourself time away from the things that are making you angry. Even if it’s just for a few minutes.

2. You’re Always Defensive

Are you always getting defensive about something? Things like your work, your looks, your weight, how you talk, or anything else? Getting defensive and angry over things that make you defensive, is a sign you should evaluate things before reading too much into them. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself getting angry over things that probably were taken out of context. These are the perfect situations to take time out to think before you say anything, so you can avoid making things worse.

3. Any Little Thing Gets You Mad

Do the smallest things set you off? You know things like: getting stuck in traffic, your morning coffee is cold, or you get ketchup on your new shirt. There are worse things in life than spilling something on your shirt… although it can be annoying, it really doesn’t justify the amount of anger, or attention, that it gets.

4. You Get Aggressive

Becoming aggressive when you’re angry is one of the worst things you can do. It can be a marker of just how “out of control” your anger is. If you get aggressive when you get angry, even for small things, then you’re endangering not only yourself, but those around you.

Recognizing any of these symptoms is the first step in taking charge of your anger, before it starts affecting your life and relationships.

Seriously… don’t be like Angry Benson, in this video…