7 Symptoms of Anger Problems

We’ve all heard that anger is a normal part of being human. But, how do we know when anger is no longer normal, and is actually a problem? Listed below are 7 ways to know if the way you deal with anger is becoming an issue.

This list, is by no means, set in stone; but it should at least give you an idea of where you are – as far as handling anger is concerned.

1. Getting Angry Often

Everyone experiences anger from time to time, but getting angry more times than you can count, can be a symptom of an anger problem.

2. Holding on to Anger for Long Periods of Time

Being angry for a small amount of time can be ok – but staying angry for long periods of time, can introduce health problems, or escalate into bigger issues.

There is no set amount of time to be angry, but it’s safe to say that being angry for most of your life, or for years and years can turn into something ugly.

3. Getting Angry About ‘Anything’ or For No Reason

We all have our so-called hot buttons. There’s going to be something that can get us angry. Some of us, on the other hand, tend to fly off the handle over any little thing, on a frequent basis. Does that describe you?

4. Allowing Anger to Control You

Does everything you do, say, or feel revolve around anger? Going out of your way to avoid getting angry, or constantly being on the lookout for things that can make you angry, gives control to anger – while, at the same time, letting it run your life.

5. Using Anger to Control Others

It should go without saying, that using anger and fear tactics to control someone else is not only hurting you, but those around you. If people are walking on eggshells around you, this could be one of the symptoms of anger problems.

6. Having Intense Anger

If you frequently find yourself getting so angry that your vision starts getting blurred, you get light-headed, or your arms/hands start shaking uncontrollably, there’s a strong possibility that you have a problem with anger (or some other health issue).

7. Aggressive Anger

Of course this is not a good sign. This is probably one of the most obvious, yet serious symptoms of anger problems, that are listed here. If you consistently express your anger by getting aggressive – physically or verbally – then seek the help of an anger management professional.

Do you think you have an anger problem, now that you’ve gone through this list?

You probably already know the answer to that question.

So, what are you going to do about it now?

Realistically, you have a couple of choices here.

A) You can either keep doing what you’ve been doing and keep getting the same results… in other words, keep responding to anger without thinking and continue making yourself and those around you miserable.

or…

B) You can CHOOSE to find better ways to respond to anger. Ways that will leave you feeling better about yourself and respected by others.

The thing is, you DO have a choice… whether it seems like it or not.

Although, Angry Benson (see video below) does a poor job of doing so, you can choose to not let anger control you.

Types of Anger – Here Are 12 Kinds of Anger

It goes without saying that, anger is one of those emotions that can be destructive and lead to various problems if it goes unnoticed. Although it can be tough sometimes, with the different types of anger around, recognizing the signs of anger issues, is a key factor in determining what to do when anger rears its ugly head.

Here are 12 of the most common kinds of anger. See if you recognize any one, in particular.

1. Behavioral Anger

This type of anger usually describes someone who is aggressive towards whatever triggered their anger… this can be another person. This can be someone who always seems to act out, or is troublesome. Sometimes the outcome is physical abuse or attacks against others.

2. Passive Anger

People who use sarcasm or mockery as a way to hide their feelings, typically express this form of anger. They tend to avoid confrontations with people or situations.

3. Verbal Anger

Anger that’s expressed mostly through words and not actions. Verbal abuse is used to criticize and insult people (put them down) and complain.

4. Constructive Anger

This type of anger is a key factor in driving people to want to join movements and groups. It’s the feeling of being fed up with how things are going, and the need to make a positive change.

5. Self-inflicted Anger

Anger that translates in causing harm to one’s own body. People who use this type of anger are acting out by punishing themselves for something they’ve done wrong. Some examples include starvation, cutting, and overeating.

6. Volatile Anger

This form of anger occurs in varying degrees… it comes and goes. It can just appear out of nowhere, or build into something bigger. It can either explode or go unnoticed. It could even be expressed verbally or physically.

7. Chronic Anger

Ever come across someone that’s seemingly angry for no reason, or mad all the time? More than likely, they were exhibiting this type of anger. People with chronic anger are just mad in general.

8. Judgmental Anger

Putting other people down and making them feel bad about themselves, or abilities, is a form of judgmental anger. This person expresses their feelings by making those around them feel worthless.

9. Overwhelmed Anger

This person relieves stress by shouting, and flying off the handle, when they can’t take situations and things that are happening around them, anymore. When things are just too overwhelming… which is why it’s called ‘overwhelmed anger’.

10. Retaliatory Anger

This is probably one of the most common, of the bunch. Retaliatory anger usually occurs as a direct response to someone else lashing out at you… has that happened to you once or twice ? ;-)

11. Paranoid Anger

This anger comes about when someone feels jealousy towards others, because they feel other people have or want to take what’s rightfully theirs. Or they may act out because they feel intimidated by others.

12. Deliberate Anger

Using anger to gain power over a situation or person. A person expressing this form of anger may not start out angry, but will get angry when something does not turn out the way they wanted. Or, someone doesn’t see eye to eye with something they planned.

These are the most common types of anger. As mentioned at the beginning of this article, being aware of anger when it first appears is one of the first steps to master in order to make different choices in how to respond to it.