The premise of this article is to cover, simple strategies for dealing with anger issues. In this case, how to deal with someone who has issues with anger.
We’ve all encountered them. Some of us more than others, but we’ve all had our dealings with them at one time or another. This person is your friend, father, mother, co-worker, someone you’re dating, your husband, wife, or even your kids. What do these people have in common? They could be someone you know who has problems with anger.
So, the question is, “What are some ways to deal with someone who has anger issues?”
Here are a few suggestions that may lead you in the right direction.
1. Address Issues From a Calm Perspective
Think about it a second – if you were angry, how would you react if someone you’re angry at, or arguing with, was shouting or responding to you in an angry way? Would that calm you down? Of course not, you’d probably get frustrated which would intensify your anger, and could lead you to say, or do, something you later regret.
One of the first things to keep in mind when dealing with an angry person is to relax and speak to them calmly. That way there’s a better chance they will calm down too, and respond without being so angry. Or at the very least, not feel like they’re being attacked.
With that said, here’s something else you may want to consider…
2. Realize They Make Their Own Choices
Odds are, you probably don’t like to be told what to do, or how to feel. Likewise, the person that’s angry doesn’t want to be told what to do either. In fact, telling an angry person to chill out, or calm down, sometimes gets the opposite result… it makes them angrier.
They might feel like you’re trying to boss them around, which may be the reason they’re angry in the first place. So, recognize they have a right to feel the way they do, and how they choose to react, whether you agree with them or not. But also, remember you have a choice on whether you want to stick around while they’re angry. Which brings us to the next strategy for dealing with someone with anger issues.
3. Leave The Room
Just because someone else has anger issues and doesn’t know how to control their reaction to anger, doesn’t mean you have to stick around to deal with it. If it’s safe, and appropriate for you to do so, leave the room until they calm down. This way you don’t give yourself a chance to get angry too. Then you both have time to clear your heads and can talk things out in a cool manner.
Although there are no guarantees that these anger management strategies will work for you and your specific situation, this should have given you a better idea of how to approach the issue of dealing with someone with anger problems, in a way that’s healthier for you and the other person.
Want to know what type of anger the person you think has an anger problem is? Check out the 12 types of anger, and see if any of them sound familiar, to you.