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If you need to know how to deal with an angry spouse, then this short video may give you some ideas. Specifically, it covers a few techniques you can use when you find yourself in the uncomfortable position of having a spouse that yells at you.
How to Deal With an Angry Spouse (that yells)
Knowing how to deal with an angry spouse effectively means keeping some key things in mind when faced with this issue. Listed below are the main ideas that were addressed in this video.
5 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH AN ANGRY WIFE OR HUSBAND
1. Don’t defend yourself – proving you’re right just makes the other person even angrier. If you are right, there’s plenty of time to discuss it when everyone has calmed down.
2. Remain calm and reasonable – there’s no sense in both of you being angry. Plus, your calm energy will essentially calm your spouse down.
3. It’s a good idea to take a timeout if you’re afraid for your safety.
4. Listen for the presence of pain underneath your spouse’s anger – usually where there’s anger, there’s pain. So it’s important to really listen to your partner and let them know that you’re hearing them.
5. As you’re listening to them, calmly and sincerely ask them, “what can I do…?” When sincerely asked, this let’s your spouse know you’re hearing them and can lead to them calming down.
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Can you really avoid an argument? I mean really… sometimes arguing is something that can’t be avoided. We all have disagreements with others at some time or another, that’s what makes us different. We can’t always agree 100% of the time… but we can learn to control how we respond to someone when we disagree with them, so we don’t make matters worse.
Hold your tongue
A good skill to pick up would be learning how to control what comes out of your mouth in the heat of the moment. In other words, learn not to say things that you might later regret. Most of us have a hard time with that one thing.
Case in point, while we’re in the middle of an argument, we might say something that we know will hurt the other person, even if we don’t really mean it at the time.
Since walking out in the middle of an argument is not always an option, the best thing you could do is to do some damage control. In this case, try keeping your thoughts to yourself.
Yes, you’re angry, and yes, you’re probably feeling a lot of things like resentment, frustration, and the need to avenge yourself among other things, but this does not mean that you need to voice every thought, especially if they are not thoughts you would normally voice out loud.
If keeping your thoughts to yourself is too hard for you, and you feel the need to say what’s on your mind, then the next thing you might want to try is getting your thoughts together so that you’re more aware of what you’re doing and saying.
In other words, you’d want to stick to the topic, and keep as much of the angry words out of the conversation – this way you’re not as tempted to say anything hurtful.
As with anything that we don’t do on a regular basis, this anger management tip is easier said than done… but if you start practicing being more aware of what you say in the middle of an argument, you’ll have a better shot at not saying something you’ll regret later. Which in most cases, will keep the argument from becoming worse than it is.